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How to keep your relationship



I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. 
Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. 
In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee you not falling in love with any other person.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart; it works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self-discipline. This is because time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, and curvy even more God fearing than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you, self-control will help you, and emotional intelligence will come to your rescue commitment will keep you going. With these characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? 
You think they don't feel funny sometimes? 
You think they don't catch feelings? 
They do!


But understanding that COMMITMENT is greater than FEELINGS is the great arsenal that does destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them. 
It takes more than love. 
We are fond of loving when it's convenient, when it's sweet. 
We are also fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. 
After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped; it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships are not readymade. 
You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment, it requires intelligent. 
On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, its determination and commitment.

Everyone fall in love, it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? 
Building a relationship? 
Only the strong and committed ones do that. 
That's why we must find that one person and be ready to commit one’s self to that one, discipline yourself, and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. 
It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but always that you can make it work and that is by putting heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
Always remember that the kind of love that attracts you guys together is not the same love that will keep you together. 

·         Be emotionally strong. 
·         Be self-disciplined. 
·         Sticking to one person is not natural.                      
·         Develop yourself to face challenges.
·         Remember to trust God
It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same believes or let me say faith, people that share the school of thought.


Written by David
Edited by Nakelium 

1 comment :

  1. Hmmmmm,you are absolutely right..

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