“The difference between sex and love is that sex relieves tension and love causes it.”  Woody Allen

Love is one of the most intent feelings known to man. Love is mostly use to show romantic relationship with someone considered special. Some believe love is the most important thing in their life. It is natural to wish a stable healthy relationship.
Sex on the other hand is known for different reasons to man. Sex sometimes doesn't mean love exist between the two individuals. While some view it as a means of reproduction, other considers it as pleasure.

“I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.”  Woody Allen

There are different reasons why people have sex. We will consider seven reasons why people have sex and if you ever have sex, try to put yourself in one of the above reasons.

Marital sex: This is the main reason to some why sex was introduced to humans (mostly Christians). Although, some marry in other to have unlimited access to sex (with their partner), it is normal for any married couple to have sex. Most times, there is love in this type of sex. The individuals love themselves, got married and are having unlimited sex.

Espouse sex: This is common to ladies who are lost in love with the guy personalities, physiques, looks and sometimes other irrelevant things. This kind of sex is to show the guy (most cases) that they are suitable for relationship and marriage. Ladies mostly work their way to show that their sex life is even. They mostly pretend to be good future wives by doing his house chores and sometimes go to the extent of financing him. This kind of love is mostly one sided.

Prostitution: This is a job well known since the origination of man. It us a pure give and take. Although, it been modernized. It is the act of dating a guy or a lady purely because of his or her money. Demands (money) are mostly made during sex. The modernized sex at first show a bit of love but the predator knows there is no love.

“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.”  Hunter S. Thompson

Pleasure sex: This is common to guys, their wanting to taste different ladies. Most of the guys in these categories have some special qualities in them that make females fall in love with them. It might be their looks, smile, personalities, size, and shape to mention but a few. This kind of love is one sided. In this type of relationship, love is one sided due to the others ability to get his prey.

Bargain sex: Similar to prostitution but in a cleverer way, sex is offered for promotions, getting job and maintaining ones status to mention a few. In this kind of relationship, there is no love.

Retaliation sex: This is common between couples either married or not. Having sex with someone else inform of pay back or getting their pound of flesh from their cheating mate. They want the other party to feel what they felt when he or she had sex with an outsider. This form of sex is also for reassurance. To show their mates that they are still look good. This is purely obsession.
Finally, Survival sex: Giving one's body for the substance of the family. Most times, the ladies are known to be involved in this kind of sex. They console themselves and try to convince others that they have no other means of survival.

Why consider love and sex in a relationship?
Sex, is used to raise the intensity of emotions. It helps to show that the couples have feelings for each other.

“Good sex is like good bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand.”  Mae West

Are you in a serious or causal relationship? Are you married or just having fun? The elevation experienced during sex is sometimes good and enjoyable. Other times, it is disastrous. It sometimes causes low self-esteem and determination of never falling in love again. It makes a difficult situation worse.

Therefore, it is impudent to know if you ready to have sex or to wait for the time been. Deciding if you’re comfortable holding hands, kissing should depend on both parties. But sex, you have to make a personal decision.

What can help?

                Communication is a key to better understanding. No matter how close you are, your partner can never know what's on your mind. Guys find it fun to have sex with lots of girls, but ladies are considered sluts. Therefore, it is perfect to voice your decision.

The best thing to spend on your relationship is time, conversation, understanding and honesty.  -Nakelium

A RELATIONSHIP is stronger if both parties are HONEST with one another.

Premarital sex shouldn't be based on one's conscience. What is bad is bad

Written by Nakelium.