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SEARCHING, DISCOVERING AND LEARNING (The Pillars of Patience)

    There's a Yoruba proverbs that states " the cure to a headache isn't beheading oneself".Overtime I've come to the realization of this fact. I call it a fact because in each of our various and peculiar lives we have this desire to achieve something at a particular time, but due to unforeseen occurrence(s) or 'time and tide' our wishes weren't met and we sometimes feel like a failure. The most frustrating and heart rendering part is when we keep trying and trying, yet " the cutlass keeps falling on the flat side" (Yoruba adage). But during the course of all these events, who do we blame? Who do we suspect as the culprit of this failure? And what can we do to keep a free, open and a restful mind during the course of all these events?

     To begin, let's address the first question. For many, they blame no one else than their loving Creator. Why do we say so? They believe that God knows and sees everything yet He sits up there and does nothing to alter the situation. Many times when tragedy strikes, people tend to use this common expression " God gives and takes". But that thought is fact fully wrong" Why? There's no loving father who will intentionally hurt or punish a child grossly even if the crime seems far-fetched. A loving father would seek other means to adjust the punishment even the child deserves one. So if an imperfect man has that ability to love his or her child despite the failings, then how much more an Impeccable Almighty Father!

    This brings us to another point, so if it isn't God, who could be the suspect to this occurrences? Sometimes without acknowledging it or seeing the true picture because of our imperfect tendencies, some of the blame could come from us and not the work of the world as some believe. Remember, when you point a finger to someone, other fingers are doing the same to you. The problems or glitches we encounter or have encountered may sometimes be due to lack of good judgment, false reasoning, not knowing the facts or impatience. As humans sometimes because of how smart, clever, intelligent or confident we are, we choose not to see our lapses or mistakes we've made or still making. But as mentioned earlier, time and tide or unforeseen occurrence might be a cause of hindrance too. But what can we do to keep a positive outlook?

    A Yoruba adage says "when a child falls, he or she looks forward, but when an adult does, he or she looks behind". What does this mean? For whichever or whatever problems we encounter, we need to regurgitate and regrind it in our mind to see if there was or there is something lacking. For instance, we could invest in a business or be running one which didn't go well or isn't presently, it's important to do something. What if it's relationships or marriage, you seem to have done all you could or be doing all you can presently, but isn't working. It could be an issue in relation to securing and retaining a job too. You need to really ponder on this question: What can I do to maintain a positive outlook during this phase?
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    For every human there is a beginning. According to research, we are most intelligent when we were babies. We acquire millions of *knowledge at that stage, but as we grow older we include *wisdom and understanding* Now, if something isn't going as we project or plan and we begin to get tired and frustrated to the point of giving up, don't go blaming or pointing fingers, the missing link and solution lies within you. What is it you may ask? I could leave you hanging right here to keep you wondering, but I wouldn't want you to become a wanderer (Smiling). We need to go back to the baby like part of heart. We have to: Search(seek) - What did I or am I doing wrong?
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Find(discover) - Why did I do it this way? Learn(Knowledge and Wisdom) - What things do I need to do to become better?* At this point the best quality we all need is *PATIENCE* It is the quality that can aid us to seek, discover and know how not to probably make the same or new mistakes. So conclusively, in relation to the first adage quoted, putting a gross end to a supposed business, marriage, job or relationship isn't the goal, rather take your time.


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