A KEY TO HAPPINESS

Is there someone you can not forgive? Why? Who do you think it affects the most? Mandela once likened resentment to drinking poison and expecting it to kill your enemy. The word 'forgive' is a widely used word.
What is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is giving up resentment or, claims of requital. It is also the pardoning, accepting apology, to exonerate an offender.

"To err is human,to forgive is divine".

Why Forgive?
"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and to discover that the prisoner is you" by Louis B Smedes. How true are these words?

Here are eight reasons why you need to forgive
* Fewer symptoms of depression.
* Growth in self esteem.
* Better immuned to vengeance.
* Less anxiety and hostility.
* Improved relationship with people.
* Less thought which regulate you blood pressure.
* Friendship can be restored.
* Your happiness is the most important.

REMEMBER WE CANNOT GO BACK TO CORRECT THEIR MISTAKE BUT WE CAN MAKE THEM BETTER FRIENDS.

Although it hard to forgive if wronged by a loved one, but dwelling in resentment, mind of vengeance and hostility is bad. Leo Nikolaench said forgiving each other is the only way to live in peace.

Oscar Wilde once said " Always forgive your enemies nothing annoys them so much". But how can you forgive?

How to forgive
* Remember how this situation has affected you. Your life, health and your well being.
* Consider the situation from the other person's point of view.
* Ask your self "why the person behaved like that".
     "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Says Mahatina Gandlu.
* Think about the numbers of times you have offended others and how you were forgiven.
* Respect yourself and make a decision.
* Try to have a open heart to check if you were actually the one wrong.
* Talk to a confidant.
NEVER BELIEVE FORGIVING WOULD CHANGE THE OFFENDER.
We live, we fight, we forgive it a life circle that goes on.
Remember forgiving isn't for his or her sake it for you. Everyone suffers resentment after been hurt. It is natural to feel bad but life is too short to hold grudges. For how long will you hold a grudge remembering you have limited numbers of years. Viewing people as people would help have a clearer view and this will make forgiveness easier.
Forgiving might not change the past but it enlarges the future.
Frankly, most of us can forgive and forget, but we just don't want the other to forget we forgave them.
TRULY, FORGIVING IS A KEY TO HAPPINESS.



Written by NAKELIUM